Divorce lawyers are people too, and his or her response to this question may be eye-opening for you. If the attorney doesn’t get along with many people, works 15 hours a day, has conflict in the office, these may be red flags. A divorce attorney’s ability to communicate and get along with other divorce lawyers, and the court, is imperative to the resolution of your case. A lawyer who promotes conflict in your case is not someone you want representing you. There are many ways that an experienced divorce lawyer can be extremely aggressive, yet very cooperative with the other side and cordial to the Probate and Family Court. You should try and connect with an attorney that shares your values and works to effectively advocate for you, in a respectful manner with everyone else involved in your case.